How to Create a Boudoir
Create a special room just for you where you can relax and enjoy time pampering yourself.
What Is A Boudoir?
A boudoir is a lady's private bedroom, sitting room, or dressing room. The word Boudoir comes from the French verb "bouder," which means "to pout" or to "to sulk." Thus, a woman who was feeling sulky or indisposed could retire to her boudoir or "sulking room" until she felt in a better disposition. A boudoir was a woman's private space which other people could only enter by invitation.
A bit of history
If you imagine living in a French castle, the boudoir was part of the private rooms of a lady. As opposed to a bedroom which was used for sleeping, a boudoir was used for bathing and dressing. Sometimes it was also used for other activities such as reading, embroidering or as a private drawing room for receiving and entertaining intimate acquaintances.
A boudoir was a woman's confidential space which other people could only enter by invitation.
The Modern Boudoir
Unfortunately for most woman nowadays, most modern houses do not have the space to create a boudoir or a private space for them. A boudoir can be of incredible value for a woman. I am lucky enough to have an extra room in my house where I have created my own boudoir; a room with a private bathroom that I use to prepare myself before I go out. I also use it for reading, having my beauty treatments and sometimes even for sleeping. My daughter calls my boudoir "the room to make yourself pretty!
Having a boudoir adds glamour as you have your private space to do all those embarrassing things that you rather keep secret. After all, who wants to see his woman having a full wax treatment contorting to reach the unreachable bikini areas? Who wants to wake up next to a woman with curls and a face mask? Not the nicest thing to see your woman dying her hair or doing her toenails!
Another benefit of having a boudoir is that you can create in there the perfect romantic evening when you want to add some variation to your sexual life. Sometimes it is not easy for couples to go out for a weekend or even having a night off in a hotel away from domestic responsibilities. But you can always create a special evening inviting your other half to your boudoir.
Modern Boudoir Corner
How to Create A Boudoir
You can easily create the ultimate girly glamorous boudoir in an empty white room with the aid of some accessories. I have created my boudoir with a red theme. I have used a white plain room where I have added sensuality with a touch of red for the bedding, and curtains. A couple of scented candles, subdued lighting, some feathered boas and a make-up table with all my favourite perfumes and body creams.
How to Create a Boudoir Step-by-Step
- Once you have managed to create a space in the house for your boudoir all you need to do is create the mood to be at ease, to awaken your sensuality. I believe in awakening all your senses to make you more receptive.
- Put a lock on the door. The last thing you want is your children bursting in when you are having a bubble bath in a candle lit room with your favourite rubber ducky!
- This should be a room where you can relax. Clutter is not allowed. Remember this will be your private room, where other members of the family will only be allowed by invitation. This will be your fantasy room. It is not the place to bring your household or work responsibilities. It is the room to get in touch again with your feminine side.
- Do not clutter your boudoir with furniture. Think about what you need; perhaps a large sofa or a bed, a make-up table and an armchair where you can sit to read a book and enjoy a cup of tea. Everything else is clutter! Avoid adding tv sets, video or cd players which only add to increase electro-stress. This is a room to be in touch with your inner self, not a place to watch films of play computer games.
- Do not forget to add a full-length mirror.
- Accessorise your space with soft cushions, sensual vases overflowing with flowers and objects which please you.
French Boudoir Art Prints By Krista SewellClick thumbnail to view full-size
Awaken Your Senses: Use Touch, Sound, Smell, Sight, and Hearing
Too often disregarded, touch is as vital as the other senses and it is linked to our desire to be in contact with someone. Skin on skin is the most basic yet the most magical feeling there is. Tactile sensations affect our feelings of comfort and security. The materials that we use make a considerable impact on us. Use fabrics that feel soft and luxurious, a bed with silk sheets, a velvet throw, comfortable cushions or a long haired carpet are inviting to the touch and have a soothing effect.
Awaken Your Senses
The sense of smell: Keep in mind that the sense of smell is very powerful. Once walking along the street I smelled the aroma of "Diesel", a perfume one of my lovers used to wear; it was amazing how only smelling that scent on the street instantly brought back to my memories our torrid encounters. This is why I would advise you to find those scents that please you, relax you or even arouse you.
Scented candles, incense and natural flowers all add a subtle scent, and why not rediscover the health benefits of aromatic oils.
Sound and Sight
Sound: Pleasant sounds can be soothing and refreshing. The sound of bubbling water can be very relaxing and you can find lots of interior water features for very affordable prices. Personally I like the sound of the sea so I always have a tape with it to instantly relax me.
Sight: Add colour to you boudoir. Colour is vibration and we each respond to it on many levels, consciously or unconsciously. The colour you choose will affect your mood. You can use colour to add depth to your room, to add movement or to create illusions. Choose a theme colour, personally I choose red accents for my boudoir. I find red stimulating and warming. You, on the contrary, might prefer green which is restful and refreshing. Whatever colour you choose, make sure it is a colour that suits you. Even better, keep a white room where you can add accent colours according to how you feel.
Lighting can create a mood. Consider investing in a dimmer switch so you can switch the room's mood from bright excitement to smooth and sexy when you feel like inviting your other half to your boudoir.
Remember that a boudoir is not just the look, it is the feel. It is a place to make you feel relaxed and sensual. Your boudoir should be an extension of you: Who you are and what you are.
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