I'm wary of using chemical de-glosser as a substitute for sanding. I've tried various de-glossing agents in the past and none of the products I used were as effective as sanding. Sanding roughs up the surface and lets the primer and paint grip the wood better. Sanding also smooths out surface imperfections and removes residue that your cleaner could have left behind. I recommend sanding the cabinets before priming and painting them, using a finer grit of 220 to dull the surface. You can go with a coarser grit if needed (180/150), but going too coarse will damage the wood and round out corners.